When Chris and I were busy narrowing down names, there was one name I was clear on wanting for our child if it would be a girl--Virginia Sophia. Chris wasn't sure and would not say "Sure, honey, if it is a girl, we will name her Virginia." In some ways, I can't say as I blame him because it would mean actually naming the baby after someone and a someone he had never met. However, when we were in the delivery room, soon after "meeting" our daughter for the first time, I asked Chris if he knew the name he wanted to give her. He told me that we could go ahead and name her Virginia, or Ginny for short. My heart sang. I was beyond thrilled that I would be able to name our daughter after a woman who I admired and loved very much, my maternal grandmother.
My Grandma Davis was not an ordinary woman, although she would likely disagree with me if she were alive today. She was an amazing, faith-filled, family-centered woman. She loved God and her family beyond all else. Grandma was also a very strong woman.
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My Grandma, Virginia Sophia Wiles Davis, June 1940 |
Virginia Sophia Wiles was born in 1922, an only child to Verne Franklin and his wife, my great-grandmother, Mary Elizabeth (Hazel) Haberstroh. Grandma grew up in a middle-class (to upper middle class) family in the city of St. Louis. In 1940, she married my Grandfather, Glen Franklin Davis. Grandpa Davis was about as opposite as you can imagine in his background from my Grandma. He was raised near Steelville, Missouri, a small town about 2 hours southwest of St. Louis, with 10 siblings. His father was a farmer and life was tough.
My grandparents loved each other for the 56, nearly 57, years they were together. They had 7 children, 4 boys and 3 girls. My grandmother loved her large family! However, it was not an easy life for either of them. Grandpa Davis had health difficulties while they were raising their family. Money was definitely tight, especially when there came a time that Grandpa's health made it impossible for him to work. So, my grandmother went to work as a social worker. I'm sure that could not have been easy, particularly in the 60s. Despite that, family always came first. That is something that carries on with each of her children--a love and desire to be connected as a whole family.
There seems to be one characteristic that each female in the family has inherited, in some form, from my grandmother. We are all pretty darn direct. My grandma would tell you as she saw it. She didn't mince words. Her daughters are like that, each in their own way. Her granddaughters tend to carry on that tradition as well (granted, there are only 4 of us). It has yet to be seen if her great-granddaughters will be that way too.
One more thing....Grandma loved God. She was a God-fearing, God-loving, Southern Baptist woman of strong faith. I imagine that helped her and my grandpa get through the tough times. I'm sure it helped bring great joy during the good times too.
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Grandma Virginia Davis & Grandpa when they renewed
their vows after 50 years of marriage in October 1990! |
My Ginny was named after an amazing woman who was loved and adored by her family and those who knew her. My hope is that my Ginny is a woman quite like her great-grandmother someday.
It is hard to fully put into words what my grandmother meant to me. I still remember when she died, and how I felt like my world was forever changed somehow. I was not ready to lose her. However, I'm sure she is smiling down from heaven watching over all of us still.
I love you, Grandma, and I miss you!